You are not a fixed thing.  Growth is possible.

When we go through distressing and painful events, whether large or small, sudden or chronic, we can become stuck. They can colour our worldview, and our outlooks become narrowed by the beliefs that we hold about others, ourselves, and the world. The world can feel like a dangerous place, it can indeed feel safer to go about life with the view and the lens that people and the world are out to hurt or judge us. Now, that is not a fun or easy to be. It is, in fact, quite a mise

You don’t have to stop feeling like an imposter. You don’t have to stop feeling scared. You don’t have to banish anxiety or eliminate fear of failure or judgment. You do it scared. You do it feeling like an imposter. That’s the heartbeat of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) model: you take committed action in alignment with your values, what matters to you — even when your internal world is a mess. You act not because you feel ready, but because the action itself matte

Authenticity isn’t about finding a fixed “true self.” It’s about staying honest in the moment, responding to life with values, not rigid roles. This post challenges the myth that to be real, we must be the same everywhere—and explores how true authenticity lives in our flexibility, our freedom, and our ongoing becoming.

It is normal—and okay—to feel anxious, to feel insecure. The trick is to identify workable steps and actions. Ones that are doable, that are manageable—no matter how small. Small actions add up quickly. Once you’ve identified them, take them anxious. Take them insecure. Take them in spite of the anxiety. Tillich named his work The Courage to Be for precisely this reason: that the fact humans exist and keep going at all is an act of courage.