You are not a fixed thing.  Growth is possible.

When we go through distressing and painful events, whether large or small, sudden or chronic, we can become stuck. They can colour our worldview, and our outlooks become narrowed by the beliefs that we hold about others, ourselves, and the world. The world can feel like a dangerous place, it can indeed feel safer to go about life with the view and the lens that people and the world are out to hurt or judge us. Now, that is not a fun or easy to be. It is, in fact, quite a mise